I was having a conversation with some folks about the origins of diaper fetishists and they suggested I share my views, as they found them interesting. So, bear with me, as this is going to be long.
I’ve been a member of the ABDL community since 1991 and I’ve seen a lot. In my early days, the demographics seemed highly skewed toward older men with very few younger folks and even fewer women. However, these days, there seems to be an influx of younger ABDLs and diaper fetishists – a lot of them being female. It is my opinion that this is mostly due to how society has changed over the last 40+ years.
I was born in 1973, so I vividly remember how things were in the 70s and 80sn. Back then, it was actually considered normal to humiliate your children as a form of punishment. In fact, it wasn’t just considered normal, it was considered good parenting. On many occasions, I witnessed children being publicly humiliated by their parents. Mothers would spank or slap their kids in the middle of the grocery store and other parents would literally applaud them or tell them they approved. I’m not making this up… it really was like that in the 70s and early 80s.
Diaper punishment was usually reserved for bedwetters, of course, but I did witness one mother that used a comical form of diaper punishment for other transgressions. Comical, because she would just wrap a towel around their waist like a diaper and pin it on, then make them sit on the time out stool sucking their thumb. She did it any time she considered their behavior infantile.
It wasn’t uncommon to see large cloth diapers and rubber pants hanging from clotheslines in the middle of summer. You could always tell the bedwetters, because those houses didn’t have younger children. Disposable diapers for bigger kids weren’t readily available, so cloth diapers were common. It was also almost always the boys that were humiliated for their bedwetting and their diapers exposed to others. Girls tended to be ‘protected’ by their parents, so they didn’t use humiliation as a form of punishment as often. I believe this is why there are so many middle-aged male diaper fetishists – far more than female.
On a side note, one of the defining moments in the formation of my own fetish came when I went to pick up a female friend for school. Her mother invited me into the house and I saw her sitting in her little brother’s high chair, eating pancakes and wearing a diaper. She cried when she saw me, but later explained that her mother would make her go through that humiliating ritual every time she wet the bed.
By the late 80s, humiliation as a form of punishment was no longer considered acceptable. Hitting your kids in public was more likely to be met with hateful stares than applause. Putting bedwetters in diapers was also frowned upon, so most parents simply used rubber sheets and did laundry in the morning. The lack of diaper use among older kids during this time period most likely led to the lack of diaper fetishists in that age group. They still exist, but are much less common.
By the early 90s, Pull-ups had been introduced and the preferred option for bedwetters was the new ‘disposable underwear’. Suddenly diapers for bedwetters was back in the mainstream – minus the humiliation. Fast forward to today and there are tons of diaper fetishists that grew up in the 90s and the gender gap is much smaller. There is also a distinct shift in how people perceive their diaper fetish. Older fetishists seem to overwhelmingly favor diapers for punishment and humiliation, while younger fetishists are just as likely to prefer ageplay without the punishment aspect. I think we all owe a great big thanks for Pull-ups for that. 🙂
Anyways, these are my views. They could be wrong. If you have something to add, feel free. I enjoy a good discussion.